Your story isn’t their story. Just like their story isn’t yours.
I’m going to tell you a secret: Everyone’s body is different and everyone’s talent is different. Okay maybe you already knew that. But until you actually allow yourself to accept that, you will NEVER be happy with who you are and where you are in your life.
For me this is an ongoing process—a process of accepting myself, knowing my strengths, and recognizing my weaknesses.
I saw something recently that is a necessary reminder for us all: social media and blogs often only show the best part of a person’s life. (In fact this story just came out that highlights this further: Social media is not real, says teen Instagram star) Social media and blogs don’t show us real life, struggles endured, or what often is raw reality. We only see what that person wants us to see. Obviously this isn’t the case for everyone, some people do show all aspects of their life and keep it real. However, too many times we only see this false, fairy-tale like reality created by a person behind a computer screen. We start comparing ourselves to these versions of reality and consume ourselves with how perfect everyone else seems to have it, all while we struggle along. Next time you catch yourself in this hole, remind yourself that you are only seeing part of the story.
There is a particular aspect of my life that I am not entirely happy with, a part of my life that I am not yet ready to share. However, I will say, that I have decided to focus on the positives of what I do enjoy about that piece of my life puzzle and consume my mind with those vibes. To let the negativity go and focus solely on me and what I can control.
These are a few things I’ve learned that you may also find beneficial in your own life and happiness journey:
- Comparing my chapter one to someone else’s chapter twenty leads to nothing more than self-doubt and insecurities.
- All I can be is me—every bit of imperfect me. And I’m learning to accept that, to accept me, and to focus on my story. I can (and do) use others’ stories as motivation and inspiration, but focusing on my goals and myself is what will make me happy in the end.
- My story isn’t written yet. I am in control of how each chapter ends and how new ones start. Live for my own dreams and goals.
- Just because I haven’t reached my goals yet doesn’t mean I am a failure or haven’t made progress (this goes for both personal/professional and fitness).
- So what if it takes me longer to achieve what I want. Enjoy the journey and be open to change.
What have you done lately to focus on you? To ignore someone else’s story, knowing that their story isn’t yours?
Here are words I’ve found enlightening and inspirational recently (from a few of my favorite Instagram peeps):
https://www.instagram.com/p/80Tt1_lREP/